The Way I See It: The Autism Version! 

Neurotypical people need to find more productive ways to spend their free time instead of wondering when person xyz is going to have a baby! First off the world is already way over populated with humans. Secondly not everyone should be blessed to be a parent. The way I see it parenthood is like robbing a bank scenario, just because you can do it doesn’t mean you should!

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Is it really a “shame” ?

Society on a daily basis talks smack about different ethnic minority groups, the Autism community and skinny people yet it never gets labeled as “race shaming” “disability shaming” or “skinny shaming” the world just looks the other way and ignores it. All of a sudden since bigger people get picked on and their story makes its way to social media outlets it earns the title “fat shaming” and everyone becomes outraged.



Now one can feel free to disagree with me here and that’s totally fine but the last time I checked someone’s weight is something that can be controlled. Being a bigger person myself I stopped the path I was on and seen results simply by way of portion control, making better food choices and exercising. 



Shouldn’t everyone be more angered by people making rude comments about something a person truly has no control over? You can’t choose your ethnic background or if you are going to have a disability but you can choose to make better food choices to lead a better life.

Thank you for reading!

Autistic Female

A friend with Autism

In honor of Autism Awareness Month here is a special post written by my best friend who discusses her first hand experience with having a friend on the spectrum.

When meeting Erica ten years ago, we made up two out of the 8 girls living in a college campus suite. I know what you are thinking, 8 ladies living together sharing one bathroom. That seems like the making of a good horror movie but it surprisingly was anything but that. It was a great experience mainly due to the group of ladies we were that year.

All in our early twenties and still struggling to figure out who we were, I think we all saw Erica’s struggles and took her in under each of our wings. I’m not sure any of us were fully aware Erica had Aspergers but we were able to recognize she needed a little more support.

Thankfully we were a group of ladies that embraced Erica’s quirks, along with each others, always with a good laugh and mutual respect. There might have even been an occasional celebratory drink for any and every occasion.

If we all had a different role in that suite, Erica was the brutally honest one. She was the girl you went to if you wanted to know if an outfit made you look fat. Sometimes the opinion was offered without even asking Erica. Thanks Erica, I guess I’ll return that new dress!

In the beginning of the year, Erica was the girl behind her computer instead of hanging out amongst a social group. Some might even have called her a loner. It became our mission to always include Erica and make her feel a part of our sisterhood. By the end of the year she was the first one asking what we were doing that evening.

Now in our 30’s I can honestly say Erica does not need protection from anyone. She is able to not only defend herself but she does a great job at it too. I think she is a wonderful example of someone who has learned to live with a condition and grab it by the horns.

She continues to speak her mind honestly, sometimes her honesty stings but like a true friend she has always apologized if offensive. Erica is smart, successful, works hard and is more confident then the Erica I met in her 20’s. I am very proud of the person Erica has become.

Katherina Mancuso

Department of Monstrous Villains (DMV)

Tomorrow I have to go the DMV and take another written exam get a new permit bc I let my old one expire. It sucks because I know I am good driver but I get chocked up and fail every time my chance to prove myself comes around! In a perfect world I wish I could be able to be accommodated like the way my Academic exams were so I can take my test in with a certified instructor who specializes in working with individuals who have disabilities!

Until then it’s back to harsh realities of the real world where I learned the early on that nothing in my life will come easy for me! I will continue fighting on the fight to get to where I need to go! It might not be next week or next month but eventually I will win this loosing battle and earn my drivers license!

Thanks for reading!
Autistic Female

Declaration of Self Acceptance

Recently I realized while I may not understand a lot of social situations or seem to have a lot of common sense smarts, I have talents not many people possess. I can put complex jigsaw puzzles of up to 2,000 pieces together in less than a day without even looking at the picture on the box for assistance. I can also remember how to get to any place I have been to even if I only went once because I already have the route mapped and imbedded in my head. I think my most cherished gift is that I have superior ability to effectively write on topics from any viewpoint. Writing is how I most powerfully communicate with the world and that works for me. I am just me and I am finally ok with that. I am no longer going to let anyone make me feel bad about myself. It’s a new decade for me and I am done playing games with those who don’t matter.

Thank you for reading

Autistic Female

The Tale of a Nasty Neurotypical

Growing up I always thought that I was the one with the “issues” as I could never relate to those around me.  I would sit for hours wondering what i was doing wrong to not be accepted.  As an adult I began to open my eyes and realize my inability to connect with neurotypical people may not be entirely my own doing.

Lately I’ve been observing the social interactions of higher-ups in the corporate environment and I can not stop but think to myself how on earth do people get so far in life being despicable. For instance, there is this one man in particular who has the worst people skills that he can not even speak without throwing a stab at someone.  I recently overheard someone ask him a question to which he responded “And did you read the email top to bottom? It was written in perfect English by myself so I don’t see what wasn’t to comprehend?” He walked away leaving the person and everyone around him speechless.  I am far from being the queen of proper social etiquette but I know for a fact that is definitely now how you talk to people, especially in a work setting.

Communication and respect is a two way street.  If someone is not treating you with dignity or respect than it is your right as a human being to not want to associate with that person.  It is my hope that after reading this my followers will realize that its only natural to not get along with someone but the reason behind it may not be your fault at all.

Thank you for reading!

Autistic Female 

Meltdowns Part Two

Before I begin let me just answer everyone’s question by saying NO, I have not been having a 14day meltdown since I wrote part one. If that was the case I probably would have aged about 10 years and my eyes would look bigger than major league baseballs. I have just become obsessed with trying to get everything done for my Autism walk next month and couldn’t really deal with anything else! My fellow spectrum mates all know how that goes when we become super focused on something. Anyway on a serious note I am going to share with all of you all most basic steps that help me ride out a meltdown without causing a scene.

Shut up: I know this sounds a bit harsh when you read this but it is the truth. There is a reason it is called a meltdown and that is because I can no longer physically or mentally process everything that is going on around me. Adding more unnecessary noise such as talking only makes things worse as it is more sensory that I have to try to filter out in my already crammed head. For all the neurotypicals reading this the best association I can give to you as to what it feels like is imagining yourself drowning in the water trying to get free only to have more water poured on top of you

Turn off the lights: I know this sounds crazy but it actually works for me. Sometimes when I have a meltdown the dullest light can seem to be bright like that sun to me. I find that when it is dark I am able to calm down much faster as I only have one stimulus to deal with instead of two. Also if in public and this is not a viable option the next best thing is to take a deep breath and close your eyes for just a few minutes. I don’t mean fall asleep I just mean to take a brief mini vacation from the environment your in.

Go to a safe haven: The best way to avoid unwanted attention is to remove yourself from the situation your in and go to your “Safe place” where you are most comfortable. When I am at home and feel like I am going to have or are already having a meltdown I go to my room and close the door behind me to let things unfold. If a meltdown occurs during working hours my best piece of advice I can offer is go down to the infirmary and just relax until your in a better place to get back to your activities. If that is not an option you can always go to the restroom or take a quick walk around the block

Do not drink alcohol: I learned this the hard way and it does not make you happy like you see in the movies. Trust me just avoid at all costs!

Do your favorite activity: Believe it or not this may actually curve the amount of time a meltdown lasts for. Whenever I am having a down I usually out of habit just go to doing some of my favorite activities such as doing a jigsaw puzzle or artwork. I find that by participating in activities that I like or am good at I refocus my energy and forget what caused my meltdown to begin with.

Go with the Stim: I can say this after having thousands in my almost 30 years on earth that when you meltdown you will stim. My advice is to just go with it and let it happen. You’re already fighting with yourself internally so why add another fight when a little stimming never hurt anybody? After all, I know plenty of neurotypical people who have been known to stim as well.

Thank you for Reading!

Autistic Female

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